White guy dating indian
So, maybe these are just mischief-instigating trolls, having some wicked fun via drive-by hate-spewing. I think there’s more to this– and that’s why I’m publishing this post. Some of you seem to be in the mood to REALLY tell us what you think, so here’s your deluxe chance. The handsome man in church soon became her boyfriend, but he was American and Caucasian, far from what she thought her parents would ever accept.: its interesting that you bring this up.. SM is at its best when we are honestly, openly and sometimes painfully hashing out the issues that our community/others refuse to acknowledge or discuss; I didn’t put this post up in order to invite you to pillory “hillside” and “Sheetal”. I wrote this post because I wanted to know how the rest of you felt. Years ago, I crushed on Desi guys who only seemed to “swing one way”; I’ve been let down gently by being told that: girls who are “preferred”, which invites doubt about the sincerity behind someone’s “type”. Encounters with unavailable, suitable boys combined with input from her coworkers, a good portion of whom are African-American, to create an explosive cocktail of hurt; soon, my Mother absorbed that odious complex about “successful POC going white”, after the cutest brown resident at her hospital took up with some “white nurse who wasn’t even pretty” instead of someone Indian/Pinay/Chinese/Black (all of whom were/are allegedly gorgeous, in comparison). There are no educated Malayalee boys with three degrees. I have nothing to prove to your Father’s friends and I’ve never been interested in outdoing them. Additionally, I would enjoy beating the fecal matter out of the last Desi she went on a blind date with, who brilliantly said, “you’d be so pretty if you weren’t so dark!
The thing is, I am almost certain that they aren’t alone and that more of you agree with them than we realize. Predictably, each of those instances left me feeling wounded. When they heard about the brown and white coupling, my Mother’s African American office mate snorted, “typical” while Ma shook her head and sighed. If there are, they are only interested in the white girls.” “I don’t care how many degrees…remember? They usually have just one.” “Chinammamma is right. Boy should have more degrees than girl-” “- and be three years older, and three inches taller and blah blah blah.
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After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. Cultural and religious differences make it harder for any man of another culture or religion ,even if the indian woman is 2nd or 3rd generation, to marry them. Indian guys have it slightly easier with IR relationships.
It didn’t help matters that every time my Mother came across some seemingly eligible, compatible (read: also raised-away-from-Mallus) ummarried boy, his mother would sorrowfully lament that “He already has girlfriend. Spare me, Ma.” “Make fun all you want, those things are accepted for a reason- they work.
There are other aspects to the complicated issue of human mixology, too– one of my dearest friends is finally in a blissful relationship. After being repeatedly rejected by Desi guys for her tan skin and curves, she has given up on making her parents’ dreams of an Indian son-in-law come true.
From your post, it seems like you can't live without her, and she can't live without her family...
The first question you need to ask...where will you two live?
She is a successful comedian and was the brain and wit of I was faintly annoyed when I realized the premise of her show was based on her being a gynecologist.Even in the UK though it seems that even if a British Indian woman wanted to be with a white British man her family might disapprove.Those of you who grew up a first-generation kid like me can sympathize with the fact that we were always kind of … Of course, there’s nothing wrong with that; variety is the spice of life, they say.I respect her tradion and I am not going to do anything that could make her relationship with parents getting worse because for me the most important is her happiness and I know that she won't be happy without family support.
I would like to ask about any possibilities that could make our marriage possible - I don't need to marry her today because she is a woman that I waited whole my life and I can wait more as I know I can be happy only with her.On the flip side, I’m also pretty hard on other Indians for being so unoriginal.