Avoid dating a narcissist
After all, they are emotional (and often financial) con artists, and in order for their cons to work, they have to be come across as sincere (or at least persistent) and frankly, decent, normal people who don’t know the signs of a Narcissist don’t stand a chance against them.
You may have had so many Narcissists in your life that you are beginning to wonder if you attract them. I’d get to thinking back on many of the “significant” people I’ve had in my life, and the vast majority of them have been Narcissists, or at a minimum, somewhere in the grouping.
Dating a narcissist is, sadly, a fairly common occurrence for men and women, and knowing how to identify one is necessary for your sanity and self-esteem.
Before we get to the signs to watch out for, understand that no one is a fool for dating a narcissist.
A narcissist will talk at length about his day, but does not seem so interested when you talk about yours; a narcissist loves going out when she makes the plans, but she seems bored or pouty when you set the plans; the narcissist looks for comfort from you when he’s upset, but the way he comforts you when you are upset feels too quick and shallow to truly comfort you.
In fact, these individuals often have a lot going for them: attractiveness, an outgoing personality, and well-cultivated social skills.
The narcissist is usually well put-together, charming, intelligent, and focused on emerging in every social arena as superior.
If you date a narcissist, he will work hard early in the relationship to let you know that he is an amazing catch and that he is highly desired by others.
The narcissist is careful to set this dynamic up early in dating so that you know your place in the relationship: You belong in an inferior position to him, and that will not change.
A narcissist is arrogant and expects special treatment — whether or not he or she does things to warrant it.